Which Kind of Helicopter Parent Are You?

October 17, 2018
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Helicopter parenting has emerged as a prominent parenting style among the last two generations of parents.

Often this parenting pattern comes from an enthusiasm to give our kids the best childhood possible. But with the constant swooping-in-to-save-the-day comes the risk of denying our kids the learning experiences they need to become well-adjusted, independent adults. And if you’re like us, you’ve got to work to not let those overprotective parenting urges from getting out of hand.

Helicopter parenting shows up in many different forms. So, we put together this list of the kind of helicopter parents we find ourselves being and that maybe we’ve seen at a soccer game or two.

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The Usurper

Taking over tasks and obligations that our kids are old enough to accomplish themselves.

The Cheerleader

Heaping on too much praise to the point of childhood entitlement, poor sportsmanship, and unrealistic expectations of how they match up in the real world.

The Stalker

Overly-vigilant monitoring of our kids in person and digitally when its no longer age-appropriate.

The Germaphobe

Being too concerned about our kids sharing things, or certain kinds of play, because of the potential for contracting germs or illness.

The Bodyguard

The insistence of blocking all forms of conflict, adversity, or risky behavior.

The Lobbyist

Calling bosses, teachers, friends to intercede and advocate on behalf of our kids. Stepping in to defend them, no matter the facts.

The Velcro

When any distance from our kids creates psychological, even physical pain.

The Cruise Director

Overly scheduling our kids’ downtime—from after-school activities to weekends, to summer break.

The Uber Tutor

Helping too much with homework, to the point of doing it for them.

Want to rein in your helicopter parenting tendencies? Here are 5 great books on parenting.

Small Animals Parenthood in the Ages of Fear:  by Kim Brooks

How to Raise an Adult Break free of the Overparenting trap and Prepare Your Kids for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims

The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your kids More Control Over Their Lives Child by William Stixrud & Ned Johnson

The Gift of Failure How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessicca Lahey

The Loving Push How Parents and Professionals Can Help Spectrum Kids Become Successful Adults by Temple Grandin & Debra Moore

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  • Bettie Saunders December 6, 2018
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    I think I have been all of these parent type at one time of my thirty seven years of being a parent.

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