Which Kind of Helicopter Parent Are You?
Helicopter parenting has emerged as a prominent parenting style among the last two generations of parents.
Often this parenting pattern comes from an enthusiasm to give our kids the best childhood possible. But with the constant swooping-in-to-save-the-day comes the risk of denying our kids the learning experiences they need to become well-adjusted, independent adults. And if you’re like us, you’ve got to work to not let those overprotective parenting urges from getting out of hand.
Helicopter parenting shows up in many different forms. So, we put together this list of the kind of helicopter parents we find ourselves being and that maybe we’ve seen at a soccer game or two.
Taking over tasks and obligations that our kids are old enough to accomplish themselves.
Heaping on too much praise to the point of childhood entitlement, poor sportsmanship, and unrealistic expectations of how they match up in the real world.
Overly-vigilant monitoring of our kids in person and digitally when its no longer age-appropriate.
Being too concerned about our kids sharing things, or certain kinds of play, because of the potential for contracting germs or illness.
The insistence of blocking all forms of conflict, adversity, or risky behavior.
Calling bosses, teachers, friends to intercede and advocate on behalf of our kids. Stepping in to defend them, no matter the facts.
When any distance from our kids creates psychological, even physical pain.
The Cruise Director
Overly scheduling our kids’ downtime—from after-school activities to weekends, to summer break.
The Uber Tutor
Helping too much with homework, to the point of doing it for them.
Want to rein in your helicopter parenting tendencies? Here are 5 great books on parenting.
Small Animals Parenthood in the Ages of Fear: by Kim Brooks
How to Raise an Adult Break free of the Overparenting trap and Prepare Your Kids for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims
The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your kids More Control Over Their Lives Child by William Stixrud & Ned Johnson
The Gift of Failure How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessicca Lahey
The Loving Push How Parents and Professionals Can Help Spectrum Kids Become Successful Adults by Temple Grandin & Debra Moore