Transform your marriage with this 30-day challenge

Here’s how to build the bond between you in only 30 days.

Transform your marriage with this 30-day challenge

Here’s how to build the bond between you in only 30 days.
  • If your marriage is in a slump, you might be looking for ways to reignite the flame you once felt between you. Try doing something small (but impactful) to improve your marriage little by little each day. And if you're overwhelmed with wondering where to start, we've compiled a 30-day challenge for you.

  • There are two activities for each day of this challenge: complete the action for the day and write down one thing you love about your spouse on a small piece of paper. Compile these notes in a jar to give to your spouse at the end of the challenge.

  • If you're ready to transform your marriage, fill your month with these small acts of love:

  • Day 1

  • Kiss your spouse good morning

  • Day 2

  • Check in with your spouse during the day and ask if he or she needs anything

  • Day 3

  • Think of something positive about your spouse and mention it

  • Day 4

  • Let your spouse pick out a movie and watch it together

  • Day 5

  • Thank your spouse for something small

  • Day 6

  • Watch the sunset together

  • Day 7

  • Think from your spouse's perspective

  • Day 8

  • Ask your spouse what you can do to make their day easier

  • Day 9

  • Spend at least 15 minutes of uninterrupted time together (even if it's right before bed)

  • Day 10

  • Tell your spouse "I love you" with your actions

  • Day 11

  • Avoid saying or thinking anything negative about your spouse

  • Day 12

  • Plan a date night this month and mark it on the calendar

  • Day 13

  • Spend the entire evening with your spouse, even if it's something small and simple

  • Day 14

  • Tell your spouse how beautiful or handsome they look

  • Day 15

  • Ask your spouse what you can improve on, then focus on that aspect

  • Day 16

  • Think of something your spouse needs and do it

  • Day 17

  • Apologize when you hurt your spouse, no matter how small the issue

  • Day 18

  • Ask your spouse about their day and truly listen

  • Day 19

  • Cuddle on the couch

  • Day 20

  • If you've been holding on to a grudge, forgive your spouse

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  • Day 21

  • Make your sweetheart's favorite meal

  • Day 22

  • Think of a couple you admire and do something they might do

  • Day 23

  • Hug your spouse three times

  • Day 24

  • Greet your spouse right when you or they come home

  • Day 25

  • Say, "I love you because..."

  • Day 26

  • Reminisce about your first date together

  • Day 27

  • Laugh together - watch a funny movie or play a silly game

  • Day 28

  • Ask your spouse about his or her goals

  • Day 29

  • Say, "I love being married to you because..."

  • Day 30

  • Give your spouse the love jar to open one note each day

  • Even if you and your spouse are as happy as can be, a marriage challenge is a fun way to maintain your strong bond. Try this challenge and add a few ideas of your own to keep showing your love each day.

Shaelynn Miller is a staff writer for FamilyShare who has a passion for writing, video production and photography.


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