4 ways to create a deep connection with your spouse

Relationships with these four elements are more meaningful and successful.

4 ways to create a deep connection with your spouse

Relationships with these four elements are more meaningful and successful.
  • There's always room to create an even deeper connection with your sweetheart. Successful, close marriages center around four things: emotional intimacy, passion, commitment and fun. Focus on these in your relationship, and your connection will definitely grow stronger.

  • 1. Increase emotional intimacy

  • Generally speaking, men and women communicate intimacy differently. Women typically express intimacy through sharing personal thoughts and feelings, while men typically express intimacy through doing activities with others.

  • Emotional intimacy problems can crop up in marriages when couples only expect to share intimacy their way with their spouse. But you can create a deep connection with your spouse by engaging in intimacy the way your spouse expresses it, and have your spouse do the same with you.

  • For example, wives can plan fun activities to do with their husbands, like attending concerts or sporting events. And husbands can make an effort to share what they're thinking and feeling often with their wives and truly listening when she shares.

  • Finding a balance between feeling and expressing intimacy and sharing enjoyable activities is a superb way to strengthen your marriage.

  • 2. Concentrate on passion

  • In many unfortunate cases, passion in marriages plateaus or sizzles out almost completely. There's a plethora of things that can get in the way: sweet but constantly needy kids, loads of stress, stretched-thin time and getting into routines. Sometimes it seems like everything is working against spouses to stop them from getting passionate.

  • It is imperative couples take a step back and evaluate their love lives to determine how to hone in on passion again. Set aside time in your week for time alone together by marking it on your calendar. Discuss with each other ways you can change your sex routine for the better. Arrange for someone else to watch your kids overnight, whether you book a nearby hotel or just have the house to yourself for the night.

  • After all, marital passion can be the best kind of passion because you're sharing it with the person you're closest with.

  • 3. Express your commitment

  • Commitment is an assured attachment to another. While dating, couples express commitment by taking their relationship to further levels. But in marriage, your relationship is at the furthest technical level it can get.

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  • Now that you've reached that highest level, you need to find ways to communicate your commitment to your spouse. Express to them that they're the only person you'll ever need. Tackle big and small problems together without letting your relationship falter. Reminisce on those days when you went from friends to dating to engagement.

  • 4. Focus on fun

  • Every marriage could use a little more fun and excitement. Routines and daily tasks can easily turn your relationship dull, so purposefully put something fun back into it.

  • Hone in your inner child and do activities with each other you loved to do during your childhood. Plan a fun trip and make a big deal of saving up for it and counting down the days. Invite another couple or two over for a game night. Change up date night and do something you've never done before together.

  • Pick the one you feel your spouse and you can need the most work on, and start from there. Soon, your connection together will grow deeper and more loving.

McKenna Park is a staff writer at FamilyShare. She's a happy wife, puppy mama, ice cream addict and film nerd. Website:

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