5 texts you should NEVER send your husband

They don't feel dangerous at first, but these texts can create big problems in your marriage.

5 texts you should NEVER send your husband

They don't feel dangerous at first, but these texts can create big problems in your marriage.
  • We've all heard the classic marriage advice of having good communication skills. But what we don't often take into account is how texting impacts our marriage. Even if you have excellent face-to-face communication skills, if you are texting your spouse these five things, you are causing serious damage to your relationship:

  • 1. Arguments

  • Handling arguments via text message is not recommended. By arguing with your fingers and thumbs instead of your voice while face-to-face, you're missing out on vital aspects of communication. Through text, you're leaving out body language and tone, giving your spouse the ability to (wrongly) fill in the gaps, creating huge holes in communication. Plus, the process of typing things out and sending messages one at a time back and forth interrupts the normal flow of a conversation.

  • When it comes to fights, do it in person.

  • 2. Bringing up something that irritates you

  • You may hate it when they neglect to take out the trash or leave dirty dishes on the counter, but you don't hate your spouse ... so don't ever send a hate text to your hubby. When it comes to approaching your spouse about something they do that bothers you, it's highly important you treat the situation carefully to hurt their feelings or come off as a nag.

  • Airing your grievances over text is not the way to go. Instead, talk with them one-on-one about that thing that's bothering you.

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  • 3. Flirty texts (at the wrong time)

  • Flirty texts are fun, but make sure you're careful to send them at the right time. Otherwise, your husband will get very embarrassed when his coworker or stranger accidentally sees his phone light up with your message before he can get to it.

  • Feel free to flirt it up, but don't put him in that terribly embarrassing situation. Try texting him when you know he's on his way home or when he's on his lunch break.

  • 4. Joking, sarcastic, or hard to interpret texts

  • Texts can make it very hard to read into the sender's tone - are they being sarcastic, are they joking or are they being deadly serious? Of course, you and your love know each other pretty well, but don't assume your closeness means you'll be able to perfectly understand each other's texts. Try not to be sarcastic at all over text, and if you're joking, be obvious about it. Otherwise, you can unnecessarily scare your mister.

  • 5. Announcements and important discussions

  • Alright, this one's pretty obvious, but here we go. Save any important announcement or discussions for face-to-face discussions (or if you can't wait, at least call them instead).

  • It's easy to just use texting for every conversation in your married life, but staying away from these text messages means you two will be marital communication pros.

McKenna Park is a staff writer at FamilyShare. She's a happy wife, puppy mama, ice cream addict and film nerd. Website:

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