36 (new) questions that will make you fall in love with your spouse again

Get ready to fall in love all over again with this new set of questions.

36 (new) questions that will make you fall in love with your spouse again

Get ready to fall in love all over again with this new set of questions.
  • A study on love went viral in 2015 when Dr. Aron explored the possibility of jump-starting intimacy between two strangers by having them ask each other a set of 36 personal questions. The questions were split into three sets, starting off with mildly personal questions and building up to deeper ones.

  • Though the questions were designed for strangers to fall in love, many couples who had been together for years wanted in on the challenge too. Now it's time to try out our new set of 36 questions made especially for all you married folk out there. Cozy on up next to your spouse and get ready to open up, reconnect and fall in love all over again.

  • Set 1

  • 1. How would you describe your spouse's sense of humor?

  • 2. What famous person does your spouse remind you of?

  • 3. Name a habit your spouse does that you think is cute.

  • 4. If your options for your next weekend date were limitless, what would you choose to do?

  • 5. Would you describe your life together as peaceful, comfortable and quiet or exciting, fast-paced and crazy?

  • 6. Given a choice of anywhere in the world, where would you want to travel with your spouse tomorrow?

  • 7. Who do you think will outlive the other? Why?

  • 8. Name the attribute of your spouse you find the most sexy.

  • 9. For what in your marriage do you feel the most grateful?

  • 10. If you could change anything about your wedding day, what would it be?

  • 11. Take four minutes and tell your spouse your love story (from first sight to now) in as much detail as possible.

  • 12. What is one childhood memory you've never told your spouse about before?

  • Set 2

  • 13. What was going through your head the first time you met your spouse?

  • 14. Is there something you've wished the two of you would do together for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

  • 15. First, quietly think to yourself what you consider to be your greatest accomplishment and what you consider is your spouse's greatest accomplishment. Then share them together and see if either match up.

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  • 16. In what way is your spouse your friend?

  • 17. What is your most treasured memory of your relationship?

  • 18. What is your most terrible memory of your relationship?

  • 19. Name a small act of kindness you noticed your spouse doing recently.

  • 20. What does "love" mean to you?

  • 21. What is the first character attribute that pops into your head when you think of your spouse?

  • 22. Alternate sharing compliments of each other that you rarely or never mention.

  • 23. How close and warm are you as a couple? Do you feel your relationship is happier than most other people's?

  • 24. If you have children or plan to have children, what hopes and aspirations do you have for their futures?

  • Set 3

  • 25. Finish this statement three different times: "You make me happy because..."

  • 26. Complete this sentence: "I wish my spouse would compliment me more on..."

  • 27. If you knew your spouse would die suddenly one year from now, would you live your life together differently from here on out? If so, in what way?

  • 28. How far have you come since your wedding day? In what ways?

  • 29. What is one hope you have for your marriage right now? How about in the future?

  • 30. Name a time you saw your spouse cry. What was going through your head in that moment?

  • 31. Name a time you saw your spouse full of joy. What was going through your head in that moment?

  • 32. Name three ways your spouse has changed you for the better.

  • 33. Looking back on your marriage, what is one thing you wish you had done better?

  • 34. What is one thing you want to improve in yourself? Once you've both shared, discuss how you can help your spouse achieve that improvement.

  • 35. Name three specific instances (other than your proposal or wedding) when you've felt a deep love for your spouse.

  • 36. If this was the last time you saw your spouse, what would you tell him/her?

  • Plan a time (maybe this week's date night?) where you and sit down with your spouse and answer these questions seriously. See what answers surprise you and see how your love grows.

McKenna Park is a staff writer at FamilyShare. She's a happy wife, puppy mama, ice cream addict and film nerd. Website:

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