7 surprising ways to revamp your love life

Looking to revamp your love life? Try one of these 7 surprising ways.

7 surprising ways to revamp your love life

Looking to revamp your love life? Try one of these 7 surprising ways.
  • In the beginning relationships are all fun and games. The initial spark between the two of you is fueled with extreme desire, excitement, nerves and fascination. There are so many things to learn about each other and the novelty of what's to come is enchanting all the same.

  • But, what happens after a year or two when the thrill of the unknown is replaced with day-to-day routines and you have each other memorized?

  • The mystery and the excitement of the unknown does not have to be lost. There are still several ways to create or recreate the mystery you were enchanted with when you first started dating.

  • I took her to the aquarium bitches love fish ???#surprisedate #mybae

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  • Take turns date planning

  • Disregard stereotypical expectations and liven up your date nights by switching off who plans them. The common "I've got this one," and "You've got the next one," will create a break from the same go-to dates your partner enjoys.

  • Combining both of your interests will open up your dating world to many more experiences you can enjoy together.

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  • Surprise rendezvous

  • To invite a mysterious and alluring element to your relationship, plan a surprise rendezvous or small getaway. Take the bold step and plan an intimate escape for the two of you to get out of town and experience new things one-on-one.

  • This romantic gesture can be big or small. You can be a local tourist and stay in a nearby hotel; together you can head to the hills for a simple camping getaway, or you can drive to a town not too far away and see all the amazing things it has to offer.

  • Run away together and rekindle the enticing 'sneaking out' vibe.

  • In lovely Monaco with this lovely girl

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  • Recreate your initial spark

  • Think back to the time you first started dating and all the fun and adventurous activities you did to get to know each other. Were you playing sand volleyball together at the beach? Were you camping in the middle of nowhere? Were you ditching work just to spend a little more time together? Think back to the activities, adventures and distinct moments that made you two fall in love.

  • Try surprising each other by recreating or rekindling that initial love crazed spark that drove the two of you together. Surprise them with a picnic basket filled with their favorite food in the middle of the workday, share your favorite drink on top of a roof while stargazing or surprise them with breakfast in bed. Do not forget to initiate and take part in youthful activities to keep your relationship sparked and revitalized.

  • #breakfastinbed #smoothiebowl #vegan #powerfood #morningmotivation ???

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  • Forget your routine

  • Everything is good in moderation. There is nothing wrong with getting tacos every Tuesday night, and there is no shame in always having a Netflix marathon after the Bachelor. But, there is shame in not stepping out of your comfort zone every once in a while.

  • To spice things up in your relationship, you should start by adding small and simple additions to your routine. Suggest eating at a different restaurant one night, attending a concert you normally wouldn't consider or visit a new neighboring city for the evening. Mixing novelty and traditional experiences will create a surprisingly fun and new exciting combination to look forward to together.

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  • Create a bucket list together

  • One night when you are sitting around your kitchen table, take the time to create a bucket list the two of you can accomplish together. Place things on the list as specific as visiting Yellowstone National Park or learning how to solve a Rubik's Cube in 10 seconds. Feel free to mix in generic items such as horseback riding, learning how to cook the perfect batch of chocolate chip cookies or swimming in the ocean.

  • Creating a list with items both partners enjoy will create an exciting anticipation for the memories you will make together as you check things off your bucket list.

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  • Break complacency

  • Becoming too comfortable within a relationship can become problematic. Partners often get to the point where they stop caring about what they look like and what the other person thinks of them out of familiarity and a sense of security. Break the mold and fight to have that 'look good for you' mentality back again. Together you will find dressing up and looking good for one another will spark a curiosity once dulled.

  • today's gonna be a good day ?? yes or yes

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  • Spend the right amount of time together and apart

  • According to Psychologist Sherrie Bourg Carter, "Solitude allows you to reboot your brain and unwind. Constantly being "on" doesn't give your brain a chance to rest and replenish itself. Being by yourself with no distractions gives you the chance to clear your mind, focus and think more clearly. It's an opportunity to revitalize your mind and body at the same time."

  • Take the time alone to replenish and clear your mind. When you come back together with your partner, you both will find a fresh new energy to build upon.

Hannah Rose is a content writer for Deseret Digital Media. She loves to run, sing and dance in her spare time.

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