8 dating rules that don’t disappear in marriage

The game changes when you say “I do” but most of the rules don’t.

8 dating rules that don’t disappear in marriage

The game changes when you say “I do” but most of the rules don’t.
  • You've taken the big leap from dating to marriage; and, needless to say, things are different. The dating game has obviously changed, but some major components are the same. While you might not need to drop her off at her apartment after dinner, these 8 dating rules won't ever change:

  • Be free Friday night

  • Technically, every waking moment is date night when you are married. However, doing something other than dishes at night should still happen regularly. Go out on dates, just like you did when you weren't married. Get dressed up, plan an activity or go to an event and sneak in a goodnight kiss at the doorstep.

  • Put the phone away

  • ... and not just when you both "go out" on dates. Put away your phone when you both are talking, even if it's just about who should run to the store on Tuesday. Catch her off guard and look into her eyes instead of into that little screen. Don't spend the time you have together scrolling someone's page.

  • Wear a watch

  • Be on time to these dates. Regardless of a wedding band, being late is inconsiderate. It's rarely intentional, but arriving late doesn't make your date feel like she is a priority. You might be married, but being late never leaves a good impression. Whether you have been dating for a week or for 50 years, being on time shows you are thoughtful of her schedule.

  • Don't flake

  • This should go without saying, but don't stand up your date. You wouldn't dream of cancelling last minute without giving a legitimate reason when you both were barely dating, so keep up that same courtesy. It might not seem like that big of a deal to push-off a Netflix date till Saturday, but being able to follow through on plans shows her you are committed.

  • Offer to pay (sorta)

  • Relationship experts suggest combining bank accounts when you marry, so it doesn't really matter who pays on your nights out on the town. However, gentlemen, it's still a nice gesture to pull out your wallet and offer to pay. Doing so will make it feel more like a date, rather than two people just eating out together.

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  • Give her a call

  • Why would a thank you text or phone call ever not be needed? Just because you both are married, doesn't mean your partner wouldn't like a little message knowing how much fun you had going out last night. After she falls asleep, shoot her a text to find in the morning when she gets up. If you know she will have her phone off for a meeting, leave a voicemail for her to listen to afterwards. Even though you will see her that night when you both get home, it will mean a lot.

  • Keep up the compliments

  • You knew you scored major points whenever you doled out the compliments on a date. Has that stopped now that she's your wife? Surprise your girl with text or a note about something she does well ... You will probably get a second date if you play your cards right.

  • Always be honest

  • Honesty really is the best policy. Of course your spouse doesn't know absolutely everything about you, but you shouldn't be afraid if she did. Lying had no place in the early stages of dating and definitely doesn't belong in a marriage.

  • While dating as husband and wife doesn't involve nearly as much awkward silence as the first couple of dates, don't abandon all of your dating rules.

Emily is putting her English and Humanities degree to use editing and writing all over the world. Trying to see all 7 world wonders (while visiting as many countries as she can in between), Emily loves wandering alleyways, beautifully photographed food, stumbling upon impromptu flea and food markets. She can usually be found camera in hand, munching on a street food and never has her headphones out of reach.

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