How to flirt with your wife

Just because you're married doesn't mean it's the end of romance. Learn these 11 techniques to flirt with your wife.

How to flirt with your wife

Just because you're married doesn't mean it's the end of romance. Learn these 11 techniques to flirt with your wife.
  • Many people think that flirting is just about getting the girl, and once you've gotten her, flirting has no purpose. But you need to keep winning your wife over and over. However, the way your flirt with her can be different from how it was when you were dating.

  • Here is a list of ways you can make your lady go weak in the knees again.

  • Check her out

  • A great way to be a master at flirting with your wife is mastering the art of the check-out. When you are across the room from your wife, whether at home or in public, let her catch you staring. When she notices, give her a small smile and look away. Maybe even throw a wink in her direction.

  • Surprise her

  • Do something she's not expecting. Kiss her when you're at a stop light, take her out to lunch, or anything romantic and out of the ordinary.

  • Keeping her on her toes is a great way to keep flirting with your wife, because so much of flirting is about subverting expectations.

  • Notes

  • Pass her a note that says you think she's cute. You can do this whether you're with a bunch of other people or if it's just the two of you.

  • It may seem a little juvenile because you used this tactic when you were 12 and too shy to tell a girl you liked her. But the fact that this move is so junior high is why it's so charming — not only are you telling her something sweet, but you're doing it in a way that shows you still think she's way cooler than you (just like that pretty popular girl).

  • Look at her mouth

  • Before you were dating, there was so much sexual tension, which made flirting work. Build that tension again by making her wait for it. Don't kiss her, just stare at her mouth. Hold on to the anticipation of the kiss.

  • Compliment her

  • There is nothing hotter than a genuine compliment. Now that you're married, you know the most intimate things about her, so you can compliment her on something only you know about her.

  • Dress to impress

  • When you were dating, you probably spent a good amount of time combing your hair so you looked your best. Now that you're married, you actually have an advantage because you know what she thinks is hot. Whether she goes gaga for guys in cardigans, or suits are her thing, you know what she likes. Wear that.

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  • Touch her

  • Touch is the classic flirting move. Lightly brush her elbow when you're talking, or place your hand on the small of her back. These kinds of small touches work because they are intimate and leave her wanting more.

  • Social media

  • There's no need to brag or get too mushy on social media, but a subtle shout out to your lady will do wonders for your flirting game.

  • Mirror her

  • Research shows that people mimic the body language of people they're attracted to. You can use this with your wife. Subtly copy her movements. When she folds her arms, fold yours. If she leans forward, do the same. You'll subliminally tell her that the two of you are in tune.

  • Play with her hair

  • Another classic flirting move is to go for the hair. Stroke your hands through her hair or wordlessly tuck it behind her ear.

  • Text her

  • In these modern days, flirting via text is where it's at. So even if you go to bed and wake up at the same time in the same bed, send her a good morning text to let her know she's the first thing on your mind when you wake up. You can also send her flirty texts throughout the day to show you're always thinking of her.

Melinda Fox has a bachelor's degree in English and is the Sponsored Content Manager for She loves Shakespeare, listening to her favorite songs on repeat and journaling. Find her at


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