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5 things you NEVER thought your kids would thank you for

A few years have passed since my days as a teenager, and thank goodness. But as I reflect on my life now and then, here is a letter I thought I would never write to my parents.

5 things you NEVER thought your kids would thank you for

A few years have passed since my days as a teenager, and thank goodness. But as I reflect on my life now and then, here is a letter I thought I would never write to my parents.
  • Dear mom and dad,

  • 1. Thank you for making me spend time with the family

  • I used to complain that we spent every weekend of the summer at the family cabin. Instead, I wanted to hang out with friends.

  • I hated sharing a room with my sister, and I would put headphones in on long road trips. But thank you for planning those trips, making us eat dinner together, and taking us to the family cabin every weekend. I cherish those memories.

  • Today my sisters are the greatest friends I have, and I look for any excuse to go home and spend time with the family. Those are the relationships that mean the most to me.

  • 2. Thank you for making me work

  • Monday cleaning, Tuesday yardwork, and Saturday projects were the WORST. I wanted to sleep in, catch up on homework, and watch TV.

  • You made me get up early, go out in the cold, and finish the job until you were satisfied. Thank you.

  • Those experiences taught me the value of time and gave me a feeling of accomplishment when I completed a task. They instilled in me a strong work ethic that I need now more than ever. I learned that the world doesn't owe me anything; I have to work for my own success.

  • 3. Thank you for setting a curfew

  • I hated when dad told me to be home by 10:00pm because he was tired and wanted to go to bed early. I argued when you wouldn't let me just stay the night with a friend after the party. I complained because none of my other friends had to leave the movie early to get home on time. But because you set a curfew, I at least know one thing: you cared.

  • 4. Thank you for not letting me wear that outfit

  • It was hard for me to go to the school dance in a modest dress, and it was embarrassing to go to the pool party where all my friends wore trendy, skimpy bikinis and I wore a tasteful tankini. I just wanted to blend in. But you took the time to go shopping with me, you encouraged me to respect my body, and you complimented me when I looked nice.

  • Through your words and example, you taught me that my value isn't measured by what I wear or how good I look in a swimsuit. Today I walk with confidence and self-respect because you cared enough to teach me how to dress.

  • 5. Thank you for not letting me quit soccer

  • I begged and begged to quit. I hated soccer! I hated having to practice throughout the week and I hated running so much. You wouldn't let me. You said I made a commitment to my team.

  • You drove me to practice and games and tournaments year after year. You shouted from the sidelines and dad even got red-carded one game. That was embarrassing. But thank you. I miss those days of running to exhaustion and icing my legs after workouts.

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  • Now I play soccer all the time. I recognize the importance of commitment, teamwork, and physical health, and those lessons bless every aspect of my life.

  • So thank you, mom and dad. Thank you for caring.

  • Love,

  • Your family-oriented, hard-working, confident, committed daughter

  • To all you moms and dads out there: keep caring. Don't be afraid to set rules and maintain family standards. Your kids will thank you one day.

Alyssa graduated with a degree in Middle East Studies & Arabic and continually adds to her list of random life experiences as she faces one adventure after another. With too many hobbies to count she especially loves hip-hop, soccer, and photography.

Website: http://alyssawhitem.blogspot.com

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