Why there is nothing wrong with making your husband a darn sandwich

What this FOX host said caused quite the controversy, but is she wrong in her thinking?

Why there is nothing wrong with making your husband a darn sandwich

What this FOX host said caused quite the controversy, but is she wrong in her thinking?
  • When did it become wrong to show kindness to your husband?

  • Because apparently, it's a major issue.

  • Last week, FOX host Andrea Tantaros defended a controversial Glamour magazine article that included traditional marriage advice such as making your husband a sandwich.

  • She remarked, "Why not? I support this. This isn't transporting women back to the 1950s. It's just kindness. And look, if I'm hungry, I'd expect him to make me a sandwich."

  • Knowing full-well that her commentary would be attacked and highly criticized, she went on to explain, "...'What's the alternative?' I mean, ladies, if you want to fight with me all day and be against the side of kindness and respect for the one that you love, that's a fight I'll have all day long."

  • Since the clip aired, Tantaros has received various reactions — many negative — claiming that her advice is harmful to women.

  • Why did this simple advice cause such a stir? Because the narrative around marriage has drastically changed over the past few decades into reprimanding women who make their husbands a priority.

  • If the comments I see on Facebook about putting your husband first are a reflection of society's so-called "progressive" views about marriage, then we're in trouble.

  • The most common theme I see is this: "Husbands are replaceable. Children aren't."

  • It's heartbreaking to think that people feel their spouses are disposable - if something isn't quite what they want, then it's completely acceptable to throw them away.

  • People are remarkably quick to pull out their stakes and yell, "anti-feminist" at anything that seems even vaguely subservient to men.

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  • Being nice and doing something helpful for your husband is not subservient - it's just being kind. If he's abusive and demands it, then that it's a serious problem, but it's a different issue. A man like that is scum. No woman should have to put up with that. But if he's hungry, and you're doing it to show him love, then how is that a bad thing? Wouldn't you want him to do the same for you?

  • So while some media outlets might be screaming out against FOX and honing in unnecessarily on sandwich making — Ms. Tantaros's suggestion to "be nice to your spouse" isn't awful advice. It's probably the one thing that marriages need more now than ever.

  • If both husbands and wives treated each other with a little bit more respect and kindness, I think we'd see a lot less failures.

Katelyn Carmen is a freelance content marketer, writer and graphic designer. She loves her husband, family, friends and faith.


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