Stand-up comedian Chelsea Handler shared an experience that taught her the powerful effects of jealousy. Her advice about facing this powerful emotion is a message all women need to hear.
Early on in her career, Handler was invited to a comedic improv showcase. There, she would perform for a prospective agency to represent her. The opportunity was everything a start-up comedian could ever dream of. Her excitement for the opportunity led her to invite her fellow comedian and friend to join her at the showcase because for a comedian, the more experience you can get, the better.
Having five years of experience under her belt with her friend having only one, Handler felt confident and prepared to take the stage and impress the agents.
After both of their performances, Handler received a phone call from her friend the next day. Her friend told her the big news: She was contracted by the comedic agency just hours after the showcase.
“I hated the way that I felt, that I was jealous,” said Handler. “How could she get something that I didn’t? It wasn’t fair because I was the one who had convinced her to do stand-up in the first place.”
Her jealousy was ignited, but her perspective remained calm and steady after a phone call with her sister, helping Handler to make this event a learning experience.
“You just can’t ever act on jealousy,” her sister told her. “What you have no one else has. So there will be a place for you. Don’t think that because someone got something, that you’re not going to get something else. There’s room for everybody.”
Handler shared this experience in the video above as an outreach to other women. Her story serves as a reminder that it is OK to feel jealous so long as you do not act out on that feeling.
She reminds everyone, “There’s always a space for you because there is no one that’s exactly like you.”
Handler then ends the video with a line I think we can all benefit from: “I never ever blow out someone else’s candle to make mine brighter.”