Never ignore these 5 signs at the beginning of a relationship

These five warning signs can help you decide if your new relationship is going to work out or not.

All relationships have their ups and downs, but if you are experience more downs than ups, especially in any of these five areas, it may be time to end things.

1. You fight a lot

Not all relationships are perfect; you will even fight every once in a while. But if you find you are fighting daily or even several times a week, it’s a warning sign. Take a moment to evaluate what it is you’re fighting about. If it is something you can’t compromise on or overcome, it may be best to end the relationship now. Constant fighting will wear on you, bring out the worst in you and can turn you into a person you don’t even recognize anymore.

2. He teases you, but you don’t like it

There is a difference between playful teasing that makes you laugh and hurtful teasing that crosses the line. If you don’t find their jokes, teasing, or playful behavior cute, funny, or even enduring, then it can eventually become annoying and ruin your relationship. If they don’t stop when you ask them to, and continue to push your buttons, the likelihood of your relationship lasting more than a couple months is low. You deserve someone who takes your feelings seriously.

3. You can’t agree on major life decisions

It’s okay to disagree, but you should be on the same page when it comes to certain areas of your life. If you can’t come to an agreement on where to live, if to have kids, who will work and who will stay home (or stay home at all), how to spend your free time and what you want to do when you retire, then you may find yourself struggling your entire marriage. Arguing about what color to paint your room is one thing, but arguing about where to live is entirely different. Talk about what you’re willing to compromise on and what your deal breakers are before getting too far in your relationship.

4. You don’t have similar interests

You may be extremely attracted to this individual and spend most of your time gazing into each other’s eyes, but what about when that initial infatuation wears off? What will you do? Most couples do activities they both enjoy together such as going to the movies, playing a sport, shopping, traveling, visiting museums or a number of other options. If you find that you don’t have similar interests with this incredibly attractive person, eventually you will get bored of staring at each other and the relationship will fizzle out. Try to go out on several different dates to see if you have anything in common before wasting your time stargazing.

5. You don’t find him attractive

He may seem like the perfect match for you – you have the same interests and goals, you like spending time together and you get along all right, but if you don’t find him attractive, there is not a lot you can do about that. A romantic relationship needs that fire. It needs attraction to keep you together. Being able to find him sexy is what separates a romantic relationship from a friendship. So if you don’t see yourself able to be with him romantically, you should make it clear from the beginning that you are only friends so he won’t feel led on.

If you can relate to any of things in your current relationship, it may be time to decide if this is the right fit for you or not. Be honest and open about your feelings with your significant other. If you are both looking for a serious relationship, it is better to end things early on than to wait until it’s too late.

Megan Shauri

Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in anthropology and a masters in psychology. She is a mother of twins.