In a world of selfishness, bullying, judgmental behavior and more, respect seems to be quickly fading away. Even in our own homes, where respect should be expected, it is lost and often not seen. Sept. 18 is National Respect Day. This is the perfect opportunity to teach your children respect and set expectations in your home. But, in a world where respect is lost, this can be a challenging endeavor. Here are several suggestions for teaching respect in your homes.
Present yourself appropriately
One way to easily receive respect is how you present yourself both at home and in public. For example, the way you dress says a lot about who you are, and the respect you have for yourself. Teach your children to take good care of themselves. Physical fitness, a good diet and strong hygiene habits are keys to receiving respect from those around you. When you dress inappropriately or grungy and don’t take care of your body, you are telling those around you that you really don’t care.
Receiving respect is not only about how you dress but also how you act. Teach your children that proper manners and clean language will get you further than a rude and inconsiderate person. Also, help build up your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem. When individuals act timid and unsure of themselves, they don’t receive the same level of respect that someone with confidence and a sure attitude receives.
If you want respect in your home, listen to your children and teach them to do the same. When you truly listen to another person, you are giving them the respect they deserve. Each person, no matter their age, has something important to say. It is only fair that their thoughts are shared. Additionally, when you truly listen to your spouse and children, they will usually return the favor.
Discipline is one way to receive respect from your children, and an excellent way to teach them to be respectful. Many parents want to be friends with their children, instead of parents. They want a best friend relationship instead of a mother-son or father-daughter relationship. But, this type of relationship can be dangerous. As a parent, you can eventually lose all respect from your children. Disciplining your children helps them understand authority, how respect is given and how it is received. You don’t have to be harsh and cruel in your disciplining. Teach them how to respect you and make sure they understand why it is so important.
Observe your own behavior
Take a minute and evaluate yourself. Do you give your family members the respect they deserve? Do you often use harsh tones and don’t take time to listen? Teaching respect to your children starts with the parents. If parents don’t give their family members respect, their children will not. Children learn respect most by watching and receiving it. If respect isn’t found in your home, maybe you need to start with yourself.
A respectful individual will go much further in life than one who is not. Take the time to teach your children how to respect one another and make sure this trait is found in your home. If it isn’t, do all you can to teach your children this important life lesson and help them grow into the respectful individuals you want them to become.