Dear Me: What advice would you give your teenage self?

What advice would you give your younger self? Would you give that same advice to your teenage daughter?

Many of our regrets likely come from the time in our lives when we were figuring out who we were, and growing and developing into adults — the dreaded teenage years.

Those years can be painful memories for some, often because of our lack of confidence and understanding of who we are, where our lives are going and what really matters.

What advice would you give your younger self now?

In celebration of International Women’s Day, this video talks about the advice you would share with your younger self — #DearMe.

The women share the worries they had through their teens — how they dressed, what other people thought of them, grades in school, body image issues, dating, friendship problems and just wanting to be liked by others, or even just to fit in.

Though those are real concerns, their advice is quite the opposite.

  • Don’t follow the crowd, and be who you want to be.

  • Stop trying so hard to be someone you’re not.

  • Don’t let anyone bring you down or make you second guess yourself.

  • No one can replace YOU.

  • Go ahead and mess up big. Failure is not the end of the world.

  • You are good enough.

  • You can achieve whatever you want.

  • Confidence is key.

Though we can’t go back in time and share this advice with ourselves, we can share it with our daughters who need this boost now. We can also have these same goals for ourselves as adults. It is never too late to dream big and just be you. Empower yourself and your daughters. Write a real letter to yourself with your daughter and encourage each other.

Read this article about helping your daughters see who they are inside. There’s more to a person than how they look on the outside, what clothes they wear or who they choose to hang out with at school or for fun. Discovering who they are and their goals will help them find direction in their lives.

Raising daughters who are strong and confident in themselves starts at home. Be their example and their biggest supporters.

Wendy Jessen

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