8 things your wife desperately needs to hear you say (but will never admit)

How many of these things do you say to your wife?

Your wife is an incredible, hard-working woman. She’s a fantastic wife, mother, daughter, friend and all around a wonderful human being. She’s also the strongest person you know – she knows how to fight through the difficult times with a smile on her face.

While she may be incredibly fierce, she still needs your help. While she’s tough and independent, she still needs you to comfort her. Here are eight things she desperately needs to hear you say, but will never admit:

1. I admire you

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This is something a man loves to hear from his woman, but women need to hear it, too. Your wife needs to know that you notice all that she does and all that she has to give. Her self-esteem isn’t dependent upon the attention you give her, but when you let her know what a valuable asset she is at whatever she does, she’ll feel so much better.

2. I’m sorry

Not, “I’m sorry I made you mad,” not, “I’m sorry you’re so sensitive,” just “I’m sorry.” Maybe you don’t think you’re in the wrong. Maybe you think she should apologize first. Whatever your argument might be, put your pride aside and apologize to your wife. Then you two can move forward together, plus, your wife will love having a husband who cares more about you than he does about being right.

3. I need you

Your wife wants to feel needed. She wants to know that she takes care of you the same way you take care of her. When you say these words, you’re letting her know how much you appreciate her and everything she does for you.

4. You deserve a break

Many women (especially stay-at-home moms) don’t get the credit they deserve. They work hard, so it would mean the world to your sweetheart if you let her know that you not only notice all the hard work she does but also tell her that she deserves a break from it all. You can make it simple, like letting her sleep in on Saturday and getting the kids ready by yourself, or even take her out for a weekend getaway.

5. How can I make your day better?

Maybe she would love it if you could wash the dishes, maybe she could really use a foot massage. Maybe she needs to vent about something and she just needs you to listen. Whatever it is, offer to help her out without thinking of receiving anything in return. That’s true love, right there.

6. Will you go on a date with me?

Just because you two are married doesn’t mean you two shouldn’t be dating anymore. Let her know that you cherish the bonding experiences you two get when you take time away from normal life and go on a date together.

7. What do you think?

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Your wife desperately wants to know that you value her opinion and input. Whether you’re asking for advice on how to handle a difficult coworker or are considering a move to a new state, make sure you involve her in the big (and sometimes little) decisions. This tells her that you respect her and that you see your marriage as a partnership, not a “president and vice-president” sort of arrangement.

8. I love you

Many men like to show their affection through actions, rather than words. While your wife knows you love her, it would mean the world to hear those three words more often. Make it a daily habit to say “I love you” to your wife.

Your wife knows how incredibly lucky she is to have you as her husband, but sometimes needs a little extra support. She loves you so much, and she’ll love you even more if you make a habit of saying these things to her.

Emily Brady

Emily Brady is a member of the FamilyShare content team. She studied Communication with an emphasis in journalism. She loves photography and finding a good book to read in her hammock on a sunny, breezy day.