7 common parenting mistakes you need to stop making now

Are you guilty of making any of these common parenting mistakes?

Nobody’s perfect. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t strive to be the best parent that you possibly can. And the best way to do that? Figure out where you’re messing up and try to fix it! Here are seven very, very common parenting mistakes most parents make. Are you guilty of any of them?

1. Not Planning Ahead

You know your sweet little baby is eventually going to hit the terrible twos and then the ugly teenage years – why not start preparing for them now? The best time to figure out your parenting strategy is BEFORE the issues happen –that way you can respond intentionally, instead of responding with a knee-jerk reaction you may regret later.

2. Not Setting Clear Expectations

For parents, it’s pretty obvious that we sit quietly in church, don’t jump on the furniture or throw rocks at the house, but surprisingly enough, little kids don’t know these things until you teach them! If you want your children to be especially well behaved when you are out and about, don’t yell at them after the fact. Tell them what you expect upfront so there are no surprises.Even if you think they know, it’s worth the 30 seconds it takes for a quick recap before you go in.

3. Not Following Through on Consequences

How many times have you threatened a punishment, only to completely not follow through because it was inconvenient or your child did half of the job you asked them to do? When you don’t follow through, you teach your children that they don’t have to listen – they aren’t going to have consequences anyways. Make sure you consequences that are clear, appropriate and doable ahead of time, and then keep them!

4. Always Putting Your Children First

While there are times when baby will have to come first, child-centered parenting runs rampant in America these days and it’s a real problem. The universe does not revolve around your children and their wishes, and you are doing them a major disservice if you are inadvertently teaching them that it does.

5. Not Setting High Enough Expectations

Your children may be little, but they are capable of FAR more than you know. The problem is that we never give them the chance to rise to the occasion. You can’t baby for your kids for 18 years and then expect them to suddenly turn into competant, capable adults. Instead, you have to set age-appropriate expectations from the very beginning. Expect your children to misbehave and they will. Expect more and often they’ll rise to the occasion.

6. Always Coming to Your Child’s Rescue

What happens when your child gets frustrated by a toy, has a fight with a friend, falls on the playground or forgets his homework? Do you always immediately rush to the rescue? While it is natural to want to take care of our children, if you are constantly “rescuing” your child, he will never learn to take care of himself or deal with frustration on his own. Better to learn this life lesson in the minor things as a child than to suddenly have to deal with it as an adult!

7. Resorting to Bribery

Of all of the common mistakes parents make, this one has to be one of the most common and one of the most unnecessary! Let your children eat because they are hungry, not because they want dessert. Teach your children to obey in the store because it’s the right thing to do, not because they want a toy. While no one is denying that a little bribery works really, really well on occasion, it definitely should not be a way of life.

Sure, none of these mistakes will (probably) mess your child up for life, but do too many of them too often and you’ll definitely be kicking yourself later!

Editor’s note: This article was originally published on Equipping Godly Women. It has been modified and republished here with permission.


A devoted Christian, wife and mother, Brittany loves helping other women grow in these roles as well. When she isn’t busy taking care of her growing family, you can find her at Equipping Godly Women, where she regularly shares tips, tricks and encouragement to help you be the amazing woman God created you to be. Brittany also has a thriving online community on Facebook as well.