First dates can be terrifying! You want to be honest but not TOO honest, subtle but not TOO subtle, and the idea of being yourself scares you even more.
You already asked her out, so that part is out of the way. Phew! But the thought of accidently saying something stupid and completely embarrassing yourself on the date won’t go away.
First, breathe; there are 6 fairly basic things to say on a first date that will help it go well.
1. “I love your … (insert hair style, clothing, accessory here)”
If one of the first things you say to her is a compliment, you are in. A sincere compliment goes a long way! Whether she has insecurities or not, you will earn major bonus points.
But don’t force it. A woman can tell if you have rehearsed it or are being sincere.
2. “To tell you the truth … “
Did you just open up? Please share! This shows you are not only comfortable but you already feel there is a strong enough connection to trust her.
This is not an invitation to take over the conversation with all of your deepest, darkest secrets. Let’s save that for another day. Express your dreams, interests, unique insights, etc.
3. “What do you mean?”
Wait a second, did you just ask me a follow-up question? That is exactly what she will think if you ask her this. So often a woman will end a date knowing that she will not accept a second one, because he didn’t listen when she spoke.
I have been on a date where the guy asked me the same question 3 different times. It obvious he wasn’t listening.
4. “Good for you!”
Appreciate them. Women feel more connected to men when they take the time to say positive things about their accomplishments. This again shows effective reflective listening skills, which will make her want to continue talking about herself.
Yes, women like to talk about themselves, but they do it so the guy can understand who they really are. Other phrases similar to this would be “that’s great” or “no way” or “awesome.”
5. “(Insert embarrassing laugh here)”
The sound of your laughter is something she definitely wants to hear. It reassures her that you think she can be fun.
Just make sure to laugh when it makes sense. If you try too hard to laugh at everything she says, she may end up getting offended or think you can’t have a serious conversation.
6. “I had a really good time”
We all know that the girl is expected to text the guy after the date and say she had a good time. This allows the guy to tell her the same thing if he wants to take her out again. Break the trend and just tell her at the end of the date that you enjoyed it. This prevents the awkward waiting game from both of you.
Dating is an exciting time! It’s when you find the love of your life. The person who will be beside you forever and always. Don’t worry too much about saying the wrong thing, laughing way too much or not showering her with enough praise. Just talk, listen and enjoy a night out with a beautiful lady!