Yesterday, Taylor Swift released her new single, “Shake It Off,” which has a noticeably different sound than her normal country pop.
Swift’s success has come largely from her ability to translate her relationships with previous boyfriends into catchy, well-beloved songs. (Unfortunately, not always positively for men like Harry Styles and John Mayer.)
From her debut in 2006, Swift has taught the world many lessons about falling in love — both the good and the bad.
Here are just a few:
1. Love Story: It’s your choice.
“Romeo save me, they’re trying to tell me how to feel. This love is difficult, but it’s real. Don’t be afraid, we’ll make it out of this mess. It’s a love story baby just say yes.”
Just because something is difficult, doesn’t mean that it is wrong. Relationships take both time and hard work.
When you enter into a relationship, everyone has their opinions about whether it is right or wrong. Remember: Nobody can force you to feel or do anything — it is up to you to decide.
It’s important to listen to the opinions of your friends and family, but ultimately, you need to be wise enough to make the decision for yourself and act in faith to make it work or to let it go.
2. You Belong With Me: Love for the right reasons.
“I’m listening to the kind of music she doesn’t like. And she’ll never know your story like I do. But she wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts. She’s cheer captain, and I’m on the bleachers. Dreaming about the day when you wake up and find that what you’re looking for has been here the whole time.”
If you love someone for their looks and popularity, then you’re in trouble. Those things fade quickly.
The best relationships are built off of elements that are much less superficial. You want to be with someone who knows and loves you for who you really are — someone who cares about the small, dumb things and the huge, important things.
Who knows? That person might have been there the whole time — you just didn’t notice.
3. Mine: Love means total commitment.
“As everything was slipping right out of our hands, I ran out crying and you followed me out into the street. Braced myself for the ‘Goodbye.’ Cause that’s all I’ve ever known. Then you took me by surprise. You said, ‘I’ll never leave you alone.'”
No two people are completely alike, which means that there will be disagreements and disappointments, but that doesn’t mean that the relationship won’t work. It is important for couples to do everything they can to preserve their relationship and work through those issues.
Even if your past includes a marriage (either your own or your parent’s) that didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make yours a beautiful, wonderful thing.
4. Speak Now: It’s okay to fight for love.
“I hear the preacher say, ‘Speak now or forever hold your peace.’ There’s the silence, there’s my last chance. I stand up with shaky hands, all eyes on me. Horrified looks from everyone in the room,but I’m only looking at you.”
Even if it means risking public humiliation, it is worth it to let someone know that you care about them. If you don’t take the chance now, you may never get the chance later.
Don’t let love pass you by. If you think someone is worth fighting for, it’s worth everything to get them back.
5. We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together: Know when to let go.
“I remember when we broke up the first time. Saying, ‘This is it, I’ve had enough,’ ’cause like, We hadn’t seen each other in a month, when you said you needed space. (What?)”
On that same note, if someone isn’t worth fighting for — get rid of them. You deserve to be treated better than that.
Do not let yourself get sucked into a destructive relationship. Know when to cut the cord and then stay as far away as possible.
Falling in love is all about finding the one person who wants to be with you all of the time and never wants to hurt you. Find the one who makes you feel like you are the most important person in the world.
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