Love should not be one-sided. Love should be an exchange of loyalty, sincerity and charity. If you seem to be the only one giving these qualities to your relationship, take some time to consider who you are with. Though it can be difficult to see warning signs when you are head of heels in love, the cost of not doing so is devastating.
When you are dating, try to separate your head from your heart. In this ‘honeymoon’ stage of the relationship, we tend to think that everything our love does is exciting and romantic. But this part of the courtship period should be used to analyze similarities and differences between you. Try to see your relationship at face value, without all the romance. Dating needs to be a time to share experiences and maybe get a glimpse at what your future would be like together. If you are paying attention to more than the butterflies in your stomach, you might see that you aren’t getting his full attention or devotion. Now is the time to see if this relationship would be worth it or not.
Pay attention and see if you see these five things in your relationship:
1. You don’t share goals
Even though both of you have independent lives and personalities, there should be some goals you share as a couple. If the someone in your life isn’t sharing his achievements, applauding yours, looking to participate in any sort of goal you and him can reach together be warned; he’s not that interested.
2. You are your own support system
If he really loves you, he will be there with you as you make decisions about your future. He should be someone who is your partner through joy and pain, seeking to find ways to help and support you. Love is all about give and take. Be sure that the person you are with is giving, not just taking.
3. Things are too independent
There needs to be a balance in all things, especially in a relationship. While you need to spend time doing your own thing, if your partner is constantly choosing other activities over you, please reconsider. Television, sports, and video games are fine hobbies to have, but they shouldn’t be where he spends all of his time.
4. You both are on different wavelengths
Having your own thoughts and opinions are a part of being your own person, but there should be some shared qualities between you and your partner. If the two of you are pulling in different directions, that will cause conflict and disagreement in your relationship. While some disagreement can be good in a relationship, if he is unwilling to compromise in what he thinks is right, that will spell trouble for later on.
5. There are affection and intimacy issues
Even if your partner is very affectionate, make sure he respects you. If your relationship is purely based on physical attraction, then he’s not really into getting to know you and having a relationship. If there is a lack of respect in your relationship, move on. You deserve someone who respects you and wants you by his side.
Seeing these attitudes in your man should signal you to take a minute to reconsider your relationship. It is not worth fighting for love that isn’t there. One day, he might realize how he feels about you, but he may not. It would be worth it to wait for love that is honest and sincere, instead of trying to be with someone who isn’t into you.
_This article is a translation and adaptation of the original article, “5 atitudes que mostram que um homem não quer nada com você”.