It is said that women are more complicated than men.
However, women have important needs regardless of how complex or complicated they may seem. It is important that every husband understands this; I’ve seen too many husbands in my therapy room be surprised when I say that his wife has emotional needs that are not very difficult to fill.
Everything that your wife needs is not that complicated, and usually doesn’t involve expensive gifts or spending money. Most likely, the things she values most are those that are simple in nature, but come from the heart.
The reality is that many husbands feel overwhelmed at the thought of the emotional needs of their wives, because they feel they do not understand them, therefore are unable to fulfill them.
But fortunately, it is easier than you think; and when your wife does notice, it will make a big difference in the quality of your marriage.
What your wife needs to feel — not just hear — from you includes the following:
1. That you appreciate her
As a wife and mother I can tell you it’s amazing how many things we do for our family in one day. So one of the most important things you need to remember is that she needs to feel that you appreciate everything she does. Take note of what she does during the day and tell her frequently that you appreciate those things, from washing dishes to preparing food, and everything in between.
2. That she is beautiful
The natural effects of time and becoming mothers can make us feel a little insecure about the way we look. It is essential that you show her that she is still beautiful to you. Tell her specifically what you like about her, and do not hesitate to tell her how good she looks when it is obvious that she spent more time in front of the mirror in order to look good for you.
3. That you admire her
It is very important for your wife to know that you admire her, and you’re proud of her. Knowing this will make her efforts acquire more significance.
4. That you love her
First of all, your wife needs to feel that love. Take time to learn what things make her feel loved, and then do those things often without needing to be reminded of what they are.
It should not be hard to please your wife and make sure her needs are met. Try to follow these recommendations and see the difference not only in the love she feels for you, but also in the love you have for her.